Monday, 23 May 2011

So, what exactly is focus?

Focus on Results


There's only 24 hours in a day. That's a given. It's how you focus them that counts!

Between the ringing of the phone, urgent emails, tighter deadlines and endless opportunities and greater expectations, focusing on what's most important - the highest and best use of your time has become more of a challenge than ever before.

So, what exactly is focus?

Focus is...

...the glue that holds every one of your goals in place... it's an insurance policy on your journey to success.

...a goal, a picture in your mind's eye of something you want.

Your focus is usually spelled in CAPITAL LETTERS!

...the equivalent of Moby Dick in a goldfish bowl... just too powerful to ignore.

A successful focus is based on the concept of singularity.

Your goal must create in your mind both the perception and reality of importance as the most important aspect of focus is single-mindedness.

Because everything you do moves you closer to or further from your goal, focus cannot be considered in isolation. If everything you think, say, and do moves you toward your goal, then everything requires focus!

Focus creates a powerful force: goal power, and the moment you focus on a goal, your goal becomes a magnet, pulling you and your resources toward it. The more focused your energies, the more power you generate.

There is a seismic shift in performance that takes place when you move from decisiveness to focus. The shift is caused, enhanced, and accelerated by the intensity of your focus. Focus is like plugging into a power source all its own.

If there are two goal setting elements that should be joined at the hip, no better pair exists than decision and focus.

They feed off each other. Decision makes focus possible, and focus makes decision easier.

Success offers living proof that decision and focus make for a lovely couple!

The moment you energize a goal with focus it will be as if the train you're riding instantly switches to a new set of tracks going in exactly the right direction at a high rate of speed.

We're all vulnerable--it is easy to lose focus. Accept the hard fact that you must repeatedly recover your focus. A brief loss of focus is a minor derailment, but, if not regained rapidly, loss of focus becomes a wholesale wreck.

Focus, readjust, and realign -that's the recipe behind all great achievement.

Every opportunity competes for time and focus. Resist temptation. You can't do everything, but you can do one thing and stay with it until completion.

Once you begin to focus, it's like telling the world, "Watch out...

here I come!" Focus signals the coming out of your goal.

Guard your focus jealously. Determine not to be distracted.

Without focus, you lose your way... enthusiasm disappears... goals become faded aspirations.

Goose your focus everyday through constant care, feeding, and attention.

You will receive no sympathy in the marketplace for loss of focus and the feeding frenzy will begin the moment you allow your focus to wane. You place a bounty on your head every time you lose focus.

Focus requires focus. Focus is a priority, a necessity, and an absolute; it practically guarantees a front-row seat to prosperity.


Friday, 20 May 2011



honour your feelings 3


Making a good marriage takes work. During courtship and the newlywed period, a couple will often feel like their marriage will never have any problems. They assume that they will always be as passionate as they are then; that they will have a good marriage forever. However, as many married couples discover, having a good marriage does take work.

There are a variety of other general characteristics of a good marriage. In a good marriage, husband and wife are careful to avoid temptations of infidelity. In a good marriage, couples respect one another. In a good marriage, people are willing to admit they are wrong. People forgive one another in a good marriage. In a good marriage, the partners have respect for one another’s boundaries and privacy. In a good marriage, couples are loving, avoid unnecessary criticism, and are generally polite to one another. In a good marriage, the couple recognized that they are a team, and organize their lives as such.


At the root of much of these ideas is communication. Communication is one of the most important ways to have a good marriage. This is true in all of the areas of married life.

A good marriage is one in which the couple can communicate about every issue, including children, work, household management, and sex. Couples need to be able to discuss how they are feeling, both in terms of how they feel about one another but also in terms of how they are feeling about other things in life. This does not mean that the husband and wife always agree on every issue; but it does mean that each is willing to listen to the other, and to discuss their points of view. Good communication makes a good marriage.


A good marriage is also one in which the married couple spends time together. With the hectic schedule of the modern world, couples have to make time to just be alone together. This can be anything from the weekly scheduled date night to an hour or so spent together in the evening after the kids are in bed. On a regular basis, the couple in a good marriage will do something together that they enjoy.

Ultimately, a good marriage is built on a foundation of love; but the bricks-and-mortar that rest on that foundation, such as communication, respect, and spending time together, take some effort.